1. Set Realistic Expectations
- Redefine Traditions: Let go of traditions that no longer serve you and create new ones that bring you joy and peace.
- Avoid Overcommitment: Say "no" to events or obligations that feel overwhelming.
- Prioritise Yourself: Focus on what you need to feel safe and comfortable, even if it’s different from what others expect.
2. Create a Safe Environment
- Surround Yourself with Support: Spend time with trusted friends or family members who uplift you.
- Limit Contact with Triggering Individuals: If possible, avoid interactions with anyone associated with the abuse or who diminishes your healing.
- Prepare a Safe Exit Plan: If attending events where you might feel vulnerable, plan how you can leave early if needed.
3. Practice Self-Care
- Set Boundaries: Decide in advance how much time and energy you can give to holiday activities.
- Focus on Healing Rituals: Journaling, meditating, or creating a comforting holiday playlist can help you stay grounded.
- Pamper Yourself: Treat yourself to something that makes you happy—a good book, cozy blankets, or even decorating your space just for you.
4. Plan for Emotional Triggers
- Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s okay to grieve or feel mixed emotions during the holidays.
- Have a Coping Strategy: Whether it’s deep breathing, calling a trusted friend, or taking a walk, plan how to manage tough moments.
- Limit Social Media: Seeing others’ celebrations might feel overwhelming—take breaks as needed.
5. Focus on the Future
- Celebrate Your Strength: Acknowledge how far you’ve come in your healing journey.
- Set Intentions for the New Year: Use the holiday season as a time to reflect on your progress and hopes for the future.
6. Reach Out for Support
- Join Support Groups: Connecting with others who’ve experienced similar challenges can provide comfort and understanding.
- Seek Professional Help: A therapist or counselor can help you navigate the unique emotions that arise during the holidays.
- Crisis Hotlines: Keep emergency numbers or domestic abuse hotlines handy if needed.
Remember:
This holiday season is yours to shape. You deserve peace, joy, and safety. Take things one step at a time, and know that it’s okay to prioritise your well-being above all else. 🌟
